No one tells you that grief how much work grief is going to entail.
At first, grief days may be a whirlwind of chaos and disbelief. Then they may settle into long stretches populated with questions like ,”What now?” Nights seem longer at first, endless even. One or the other may seem more daunting as you wonder how to get through another day or night without your loved one.Continue reading “Monday Meditation: Tomorrow was, Today is…”
Be good to your body this holiday season.
Growth is never by mere chance; it is the result of forces working together. -James Cash Penney Grief has an excessively steep learning curve. It is like no experience you have had before and one that will hopefully be repeated infrequently. Grief is an amalgamation of forces that brought about this swift and painful changeContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Growth is no accident”
Viktor Frankl’s memoir about his internment in concentration camps and how we can thrive despite trauma.
All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination. -Earl Nightengale The grief journey is long and trying. To make things more difficult, grief doesn’t come with a manual. Each griever needs to find their own way and discover their own plan to move throughContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Make a plan & pack some courage.”
We seem conditioned to believe that kindness is an outside offering that comes to us rather than a gift we bestow on ourselves. I was struck by how simple kindness was undervalued among some grief supporters. Kindnesses are paid during the funeral period, but after the funeral kindness slowly evaporates, perhaps as part of theContinue reading “Practice Self-Kindness”
Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water. -Christopher Morley Crying is good for you. Tears reduce stress hormones from your body, the remove irritants and lubricate your eye, and tears also contain antibodies. Our emotional tears help stress leave our body and increase endorphinsContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Go ahead, have a good cry.”
Thomas Ellis’s book This Thing Called Grief is a wonderful and digestible book on grief. At only 132 pages, you can get through it in a day if you are inclined.
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. -Wayne Dyer Grief is hardly an experience in which you immediately see opportunity. Grief is awful and painful and raw and exhausting. In grief, we see everything we no longer have, we see obstacles, we see fear. What if, hidingContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Changing Perspectives”
Healthy habits tend to disappear when intense stress arrives. We stop exercising, we sleep less, we eat poorly, we stop making health care appointments. Non-grief-related stressors tend to come in bursts that dissipate after a time, allowing us to resume our regular healthy living habits. Grief, on the other hand, brings long-term stress that includesContinue reading “Keep Healthy Habits”
If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading. -Lao Tzu Imagine life as a highway. You’re driving along, and you realize that you are going in a direction you hadn’t intended or the way you thought you wanted to go is turning into something you had not expected. YourContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Allow for Self-Correction”