Monday Meditation: It’s Gonna Be Work

“Be real with yourself in whatever area of your life and your game that you need improvement on. Once you figure that out, you just have to go out and work on it. For me, it’s footwork. I constantly work  on it, and it’s a never-ending process.”

-Calvin Johnson (former wide-receiver for the Detroit Lions)

No one tells you that grief how much work grief is going to entail.

Emotional ambushes triggered by some innocuous moment are sprinkled through out the healing process. To understand our emotions we need to know what happened and why.

Relationships and friendships can suffer from misunderstandings or a changing dynamic that no longer works. Sometimes relationship need to end to reduce stress and increase healing.

Actions and motivations can be influenced by grief pain in ways that grievers aren’t entirely clear about; grief can be sneaky and it’s sometimes easy to misdirect negative emotions without realizing the underlying cause.

Our self-care methods require annual evaluations that assess whether coping mechanisms are working, and whether some need upgrading or can be discarded.

Grief is work. Every day. Grief calls for us to be real with ourselves about how our lives are affected by loss; it calls us to face challenges and resolve difficulties. We can only progress on our path if we are able to do the work. However that work happens (whether through meditation, therapy, talking with friends, journaling, etc.) it is important to listen to your grief, find out what needs attention, and devote time to

What will you work on this week?

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Published by ancarroll

Alexandra N. Carroll is an author, grief advocate, crafter, mother, and partner. She writes on grief and self-care from her home in Vermont. Her forthcoming book concerns how to untangle life-after-loss through the creation of a strong self-care plan.

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