After I lost my mother, I started driving from home to work (Richmond, VA to Washington, DC) instead of taking the train. I found driving and listening to music very therapeutic. I would put on my Pandora radio and still as loudly and as vivaciously as I could while driving.
In my forthcoming book, Untangling Life After Loss: A Griever’s Guide to Creating a Self-Care Plan, I offer suggestions for how to approach grief in your everyday life. COVID-19 has turned many of those suggestions sideways as social distancing measures throw a curve into what could be termed “normal” grieving processes. An experience that onceContinue reading “Virtual Connections and Grieving During COVID-19”
Eight ways to handle the holiday season after loss.
I’ve been away for a bit…but I’m back!
Be good to your body this holiday season.
Viktor Frankl’s memoir about his internment in concentration camps and how we can thrive despite trauma.
We seem conditioned to believe that kindness is an outside offering that comes to us rather than a gift we bestow on ourselves. I was struck by how simple kindness was undervalued among some grief supporters. Kindnesses are paid during the funeral period, but after the funeral kindness slowly evaporates, perhaps as part of theContinue reading “Practice Self-Kindness”
Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water. -Christopher Morley Crying is good for you. Tears reduce stress hormones from your body, the remove irritants and lubricate your eye, and tears also contain antibodies. Our emotional tears help stress leave our body and increase endorphinsContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Go ahead, have a good cry.”
Thomas Ellis’s book This Thing Called Grief is a wonderful and digestible book on grief. At only 132 pages, you can get through it in a day if you are inclined.
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. -Wayne Dyer Grief is hardly an experience in which you immediately see opportunity. Grief is awful and painful and raw and exhausting. In grief, we see everything we no longer have, we see obstacles, we see fear. What if, hidingContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Changing Perspectives”
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It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. -Confucius There is no time limit for when grief should be completed. You will not be able to plot grief’s endpoint on a calendar. Grief is not a race with a clearly delineated finish. Nor is grief a road tripContinue reading “Monday Motivation: No Matter the Pace, Move Forward”
No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path. -The Buddha If you are looking for someone to save you during your grief freefall, look in the mirror. Others will try to mold you into the person they want you to be…and that isn’t goingContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Save Yourself”