The following series of posts outline the traditional “stages” of grief as presented in Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’s On Death and Dying (1969). The stages are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. This post addresses denial.
At some point in our education about death and grief, we may have heard of the five stages of grieving. As a society we have mistakenly developed a view of the bereavement experience as a sort of numbered pathway that has a distinct beginning and end. However, bereavement professionals have pointed out our flawed applicationContinue reading “Grief 101: The Five Stages of Grief…”
We’ve come to describe the experience of loss using the term grief, the descriptor that highlights the emotions associated with loss. Thus, the terms bereavement, grief, and mourning might be used interchangeably to discuss an experience of loss. However, each word reflects a different aspect of the loss experience.
Our society seems to approach grief as though it were another name for depression. This probably stems from our association of negative emotions with depression. The conflation of the two together does both grief and depression a disservice because they are not the same.
In short, No. More evidence for the “grief is unique” discussion is that grief manifests in various patterns, further confirming that we can’t (and shouldn’t) tell others that we know exactly what they are going through and that we have the perfect solution to “fix” them.
Answer: As long as it needs.
In short: NO. Grief is not the same for everyone who goes through it. Grief is unique to every Griever. There is no predictable pattern that grief follows from person to person.
In the wake of a death we use the term “grief” to describe what we and/or others are going through. The word “grief” seems to be an umbrella term that covers a variety of things happening with those closest to the person who has died. (Grief also extends to a variety of other life situationsContinue reading “GRIEF 101: What is Grief?”