Mother’s Day is this weekend. I keep forgetting about it. Not having a mother will do that to you. My email is full of helpful “reminders” of the day from internet companies I have bought gifts through over the past year. Even before my mother died I always wondered about people who had terrible relationships… Continue reading Mother’s Day 2018
In my post The Right to Fall Apart, I wrote about the Griever’s right to express emotions when needed. The trouble with falling apart is that we have to attend to our lives at the same time. We have jobs, school, and/or families to deal with. Real Life intrudes on our need to crumble; therefore,… Continue reading How to Fall Apart
On continuing special traditions after the death of a loved one.
"I am worried about her," my aunt said from behind me. "She cried at the hospital when Eileen died. She wouldn't let her go." I sat on the kneeler next to my mother's casket before and after her wake rather than sitting in a chair across the room from her. I wanted to sit next… Continue reading The Right to Fall Apart
My mother died March 5, 2015—three years ago. A loved one’s death is a strange anniversary to commemorate, and like everything else within the grief process, each griever acknowledges the death anniversary differently. March 5 is a date I will never forget. I carry vivid images of that Thursday morning and the three days leading… Continue reading Anniversaries