Grief isn’t just one experience that hangs out for a bit and then disappears. Grief is a very long road broken up into shorter segments that piggyback onto one another for the remainder of a griever’s life. Outsiders often mistake grief for a one-and-done experience: someone dies, you get sad, you deal with it, you’reContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Persevering”
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Monday Meditation: Step On In
Grief is huge. It’s an ocean. If we stopped to contemplate what was living in every nook and cranny of the ocean and what could happen to us if we went to varying depths, we might become paralyzed.
Monday Meditation: Fall Now, Stand Later
One of the most significant misunderstandings concerning grief is the belief that grief is a one-and-done experience: loss happens, you get sad, you gradually become happier, and then, one day, grief is gone for good. The belief is helpful to grief supporters, who sometimes act as though our grief is a drag. The sooner weContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Fall Now, Stand Later”
Monday Mediation: Rest Slowly
Rest plus quiet does not equal stopping. It means going slowly. In the act of lying fallow, the ground continues to engage life as the soil replenishes its nutrients and prepares itself for planting again. The action is happening below the surface, out of sight. Just because it is hidden from view does not meanContinue reading “Monday Mediation: Rest Slowly”
Monday Meditation: Is Loved and Lost Better?
Is it? Ask a griever in the pain of missing a loved one any day of the year whether it truly is better to have loved and lost. Some may say that the pain they experience is too overwhelming that it makes them wish they never loved in the first place.
Monday Meditation: To Rest, Surrender.
To rest, you have to stop expending energy in certain ways. Not only do you have to physically stop performing certain activities, but you also have to release depleting mental loads from your mind.
Monday Meditation: Lie Fallow
Fallowing is a farming practice whereby a field is left unsown for a period of time to let the soil recover its nutrients and restore its moisture content. This recovery time later allows that same soil to grow a larger and better crop when next planted. The “rest” time granted to grievers by friends, family,Continue reading “Monday Meditation: Lie Fallow”
Monday Meditation: Sacred Tears
This will be a difficult week for many. Supporters may encourage grievers to perk up because it is a holiday week, to be “merry and bright.” There is little merriment or brightness when we miss someone. Celebrations accentuate the absence of loved ones in the sharpest way.
Monday Mediation: Start Simply.
A pitfall of life is getting caught up in the race to be more, be ahead of the game, be pushing for the next whatever, be comparing ourselves to the past…essentially occupying any moment other than the present.
Monday Meditation: Fatigue
The Joy of Coloring
In the aftermath of his professional split from Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung began an experiment of writing and reflection on his life and career. Jung wrote of visions and fantasies he had as he opened himself to a confrontation with his unconscious during his personal struggles. Later he added complementary imagery, mostly in the formContinue reading “The Joy of Coloring”
Monday Meditation: Self-Mastery
The new year brings resolution fever. People create lists of habits they would like to break or new things they would like to do. However, these lists may not help those recovering from loss. What might grievers resolve to do in new years?
Monday Meditation: The Role of Pain
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. -Khalil Gibran Loss comes with pain; emotional and physical. Unfortunately, it is part of the process and we cannot get around it. Often, we seek ways to avoid the pain, to numb ourselves to it. Some distractions are healthy, others not. While theContinue reading “Monday Meditation: The Role of Pain”
Monday Meditation: Certain Change
There is nothing permanent except change. -Heraclitus We are slowly approaching the new season and the new year, the changing of our calendar. Each year we either look toward these changes with excitement or with trepidation. Regardless, change comes. We can count on very little in life to be predictable, except change. We may notContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Certain Change”
Thanksgiving Meditation: Give.
For it is in giving that we receive. -Francis of Assisi We discuss gratitude quite frequently at this time of year, of giving thanks for what we are grateful to have. What if we take time to focus on the later part of the holiday’s title: Thanksgiving. In giving to others we are able toContinue reading “Thanksgiving Meditation: Give.”