Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
-Khalil Gibran
Loss comes with pain; emotional and physical. Unfortunately, it is part of the process and we cannot get around it. Often, we seek ways to avoid the pain, to numb ourselves to it. Some distractions are healthy, others not. While the pain is overwhelming and may return to you when you least expect it, consider that grief pain plays an important role in your healing. The pain is a revelation. It pulls the curtain back on the depth of your love and your heartbreak. It peels away the veneer of your security to unveil vulnerability. It removes the barriers to a deeper knowledge of yourself, your loved one, and the grief supporters surrounding you. Before you move to block pain, try changing your perspective on the purpose that pain serves. It is not here just to wound you; it is here to reveal something to you.
A.N.Carroll 