Monday Motivation: No Matter the Pace, Move Forward

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do  not stop.


There is no time limit for when grief should be completed. You will not be able to plot grief’s endpoint on a calendar. Grief is not a race with a clearly delineated finish. Nor is grief a road trip from point A to point B. It is an ongoing process through which we move, a companion that joins us for the rest of our life.

Because of the nature of grief, our progress is measured in fits and starts. How far we make it each day is less important than what we learn about ourselves or the small moment of enjoyment we experience on any given day.

Do you not rush yourself through grief because you think you should farther along on the healing track than you are. You will take as long as you need to move forward. Some days will have giant steps forward, others only offer a small one. That’s okay. The fact that you keep moving forward is what matters. Stopping and refusing to continue brings stagnation. Motion forward, even when painful, brings healing.

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Published by ancarroll

Alexandra N. Carroll is an author, grief advocate, crafter, mother, and partner. She writes on grief and self-care from her home in Vermont. Her forthcoming book concerns how to untangle life-after-loss through the creation of a strong self-care plan.

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