Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.
-Melody Beattie
Last year has passed and the new year, with its blank calendar spaces, is open and waiting for us. Rather than set resolutions, create goals to accomplish this year. Being part of a forward-moving life is important for grievers. Setting goals helps us move forward. What would you like to see develop for yourself in 2019?
If you are newly grieving, goals may seem difficult to set. How do you set goals when a part of your life is missing? Focus on small goals. Create a short list of small things you can accomplish over the course of the year rather than large resolutions that require more energy and time than you have available. Or consider setting one larger goal that you can break into smaller incremental units that you can accomplish weekly or monthly. This will allow you to tackle the larger goal in bits and pieces.
Throughout 2019 keep your goals in mind. Remind yourself that you are working toward something every day. The progress may seem slow (especially if you are impatient), but remember you have over 350 days to get there. That is more than 350 small steps toward accomplishing your goal.
Sit for a time and reflect on the question: what would I like to see for myself this year? What do I need the most to rebalance my life in 2019? Journal for 30 minutes to help your goal(s) emerge.
Happy (belated) New Year!
XO
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A.N.Carroll 