“A little flattery will support a man through great fatigue.”
-James Monroe
When we are the most drained and worn out, a kind word helps us push through. A nicety offers support when a person is too tired to support themselves. A complement can help someone cross the bridge over a deep valley and reach the green pasture on the other side.
The nicest thing a grief supporter can offer most times is just a kind word of support, something that complements the griever’s ability to persevere through struggle. Don’t be afraid to say something complementary to the griever in your life; you have no idea how important it may be for them.
Grievers need to compliment themselves as well, there is nothing wrong with reciting a daily affirmation of kindness. There is nothing self-centered about supporting yourself with a little self-congratulations for making it through what may be the worst time in your life. This is a practice of self-kindness and you deserve it.
Give yourself (or the griever in your life) a compliment for the next five days. See what happens.
A.N.Carroll 