Monday Meditation: A Little Flattery Goes a Long Way

“A little flattery will support a man through great fatigue.”

-James Monroe

When we are the most drained and worn out, a kind word helps us push through. A nicety offers support when a person is too tired to support themselves. A complement can help someone cross the bridge over a deep valley and reach the green pasture on the other side.

The nicest thing a grief supporter can offer most times is just a kind word of support, something that complements the griever’s ability to persevere through struggle. Don’t be afraid to say something complementary to the griever in your life; you have no idea how important it may be for them.

Grievers need to compliment themselves as well, there is nothing wrong with reciting a daily affirmation of kindness. There is nothing self-centered about supporting yourself with a little self-congratulations for making it through what may be the worst time in your life. This is a practice of self-kindness and you deserve it.

Give yourself (or the griever in your life) a compliment for the next five days. See what happens.

Published by ancarroll

Alexandra N. Carroll is an Adjunct Professor at St. Michael's College in Vermont. She writes on grief and self-care from her home in Burlington. In her spare time, Alexandra crochets, reads, and explores.

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