No matter how prepared you think you are for the death of a loved one, it still comes as a shock and it still hurts very deeply.
-Billy Graham
Death is conceptual until it becomes a reality for us. We can imagine what it must be like, but then we forget to include all of the things the death of a loved one takes with it. It is not just the absence of the person that comes with death, there is the sudden removal of emotional and psychological supports that come out from underneath us; things we never knew were there until they are not.
A.N.Carroll 