The point of power is always in the present moment. -Louise L. Hay In grief, we may tend to worry about what happened in the past or what awaits us in the future. By doing so, we worry about things we can no longer change and things that we cannot foresee. The present moment, the… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Be Present
Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. -Confucius Grief is far from a smooth path. Just when we think we have mastered some emotion or aspect of grief, something comes along and knocks us off kilter. Maybe we react badly, maybe we feel like we failed. Grief… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Rise Up.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. -Mahatma Gandhi It takes a lot to forgive someone. Many people refuse to forgive because they may feel that forgiving means forgetting, and letting someone else off the hook for bad behavior. It is quite the opposite. Forgiving requires the ability to act… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Strength in Forgiveness
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. -Ralph Waldo Emerson Grief can bring all sorts of anger: at friends and family, at yourself, at your lost loved one, at no one in particular. While anger is part of the grief process, anger can also become an obstacle… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Chose Peace of Mind
Today is my mother’s 71st birthday. My mother's birthday meant a great deal to her. Given her birthday’s proximity to July 4, her birthday became intertwined with the holiday festivities. My mother told me that, as a child, she believed Independence Day celebrations, the cookouts, and fireworks, were all for her birthday. "Yes," she once… Continue reading Happy 71st!
Part of the healing process is sharing with other people who care. -Jerry Cantrell There is a preconception that people should keep their suffering to themselves. Sad or unhappy conversations should not take place. We can only publically project strength, happiness, and confidence. This is nonsense. Healing requires sharing our pain with others, and in… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Sharing Brings Healing
Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life. -Anne Roiphe The first part of grief is the easy part, believe it or not. The second part can be more challenging. Don’t be afraid to pursue the dreams you had before or to try new things. Don’t allow… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Grief’s one-two punch
The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love. -Hubert H. Humphrey Never underestimate how wonderful a good friendship can be during grief. The person who lets you vent because you just have to get things out, or who laughs at the absurd things you find in your lost one’s belongings, or who just shares all… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Friends + Love
The words of kindness are more healing to a drooping heart than balm or honey. -Sarah Fielding “I am sorry you have to go through this.” “I love you.” “I am here to listen.” “You are so courageous.” Kindness goes a long way in the grief process. For Grief Supporters, kindness can mean the difference… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Kindness Heals
The life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living. -Marcus Tullius Cicero When a loved one dies, there is a belief that we cannot talk about that person or day-dream about what s/he would think about something in our present reality. By not acknowledging the dead, moving through grief becomes harder… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Memories Bring the Dead to Life
In short: NO. Grief is not the same for everyone who goes through it. Grief is unique to every Griever. There is no predictable pattern that grief follows from person to person. Each Grievers' loss is different because each person going through loss is different: they have different relationships with the people they lose, they… Continue reading GRIEF 101: Is Grief the Same for Everyone?
Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle. -Napoleon Hill Grief is a constant struggle with emotions, life circumstances, unhelpful Grief Supporters, difficult family members, and missing the loved one. The effort required to slog your way through this period is enormous. Along the way, you will uncover strength you were unaware of… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Move through Struggle
Mother’s Day is this weekend. I keep forgetting about it. Not having a mother will do that to you. My email is full of helpful “reminders” of the day from internet companies I have bought gifts through over the past year. Even before my mother died I always wondered about people who had terrible relationships… Continue reading Mother’s Day 2018
When you forgive, you in no way change the past—but you sure do change the future. -Bernard Meltzer The grief period is fraught with tension, Grief Supporters behave badly, Grievers hold anger, very few people understand what Grievers are dealing with in their daily lives, etc. To come out of this experience as a stronger… Continue reading Monday Meditation: Forgive for the Future
Life and death are one thread, the same line viewed from different sides. -Lao Tzu As a society, we seem to treat death as something outside the norm, something unexpected, something bad. Birth and Death are bookends to Life. While death may surprise us, when it comes early or unexpectedly, death itself is something of… Continue reading Monday Motivation: The Line of Life and Death