Mother’s Day is this weekend. I keep forgetting about it. Not having a mother will do that to you.
When you forgive, you in no way change the past—but you sure do change the future. -Bernard Meltzer The grief period is fraught with tension, Grief Supporters behave badly, Grievers hold anger, very few people understand what Grievers are dealing with in their daily lives, etc. To come out of this experience as a strongerContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Forgive for the Future”
Life and death are one thread, the same line viewed from different sides. -Lao Tzu As a society, we seem to treat death as something outside the norm, something unexpected, something bad. Birth and Death are bookends to Life. While death may surprise us, when it comes early or unexpectedly, death itself is something ofContinue reading “Monday Motivation: The Line of Life and Death”
No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path. -The Buddha If you are looking for someone to save you during your grief freefall, look in the mirror. Others will try to mold you into the person they want you to be…and that isn’t goingContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Save Yourself”
Silence is the source of great strength. -Lao Tzu Step away from the moments in which there are too many voices telling you what to do, how to feel, what to decide, and how to act. Take time to sit in silence every day so that you can meet these demands with aContinue reading “Monday Meditation: The Sound of Silence”
In my post The Right to Fall Apart, I wrote about the Griever’s right to express emotions when needed. The trouble with falling apart is that we have to attend to our lives at the same time. We have jobs, school, and/or families to deal with. Real Life intrudes on our need to crumble; therefore,Continue reading “How to Fall Apart”
No matter how prepared you think you are for the death of a loved one, it still comes as a shock and it still hurts very deeply. -Billy Graham Death is conceptual until it becomes a reality for us. We can imagine what it must be like, but then we forget to includeContinue reading “Monday Meditation: Death Hurts”
Get on the bike and keep pedaling.
On continuing special traditions after the death of a loved one.
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. -The Buddha Let go of anger you have at your situation or at people in your life. Anger affects the person who feels it, not the person against who anger is felt. Don’t waste your energy letting negative emotions ruleContinue reading “Meditation Monday: Let Anger Go”
“I am worried about her,” my aunt said from behind me. “She cried at the hospital when Eileen died. She wouldn’t let her go.”
Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness. -Euripides True friends will stand beside you as you struggle through pain. True friends will be there to rest against when you are exhausted, to tell you they love you when you are distraught, and to listen to you (even if you have nothingContinue reading “Meditation Monday: True Friends”
In the wake of a death we use the term “grief” to describe what we and/or others are going through. The word “grief” seems to be an umbrella term that covers a variety of things happening with those closest to the person who has died. (Grief also extends to a variety of other life situationsContinue reading “GRIEF 101: What is Grief?”
With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts. -Eleanor Roosevelt Every day comes with the promise of new things. Each morning, you wake up smarter than the day before, as yesterday’s lessons become today’s practices. You are stronger today than you were yesterday. Keep moving.
My mother died March 5, 2015—three years ago. A loved one’s death is a strange anniversary to commemorate, and like everything else within the grief process, each griever acknowledges the death anniversary differently.