Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
-Albert Einstein
A difficult aspect of grief, I think, is feeling knocked off balance…and wondering how (and when) you will feeling balanced again. Balance comes only by going forward, it doesn’t matter whether you run, walk, or crawl.
Einstein’s example of a bicycle helps us think about how to stay balanced. If you stop and try to balance the bicycle while standing still, you will expend a lot of effort trying to stay upright, and you are quite prone to tipping over. To stay upright on a bike, you just have to get pedaling. The good thing is, once you have some momentum, you can decide the speed. You can pedal leisurely, quickly, or just coast for a while (well, unless you are going uphill).
Don’t worry about when the balance will feel normal again. Trust life to carry you for a while. For now, you just need to keep the momentum going. Pedal when you need to and coast when you don’t…let the bike work for you.
A.N.Carroll 